So, I'm having a tough time with this...?

Watch the dog whisperer, and learn tips to make sure your dog does not grow up to be aggressive, possessive, dominant, or overly energetic. The Dog Whisperer is a great show, and Cesar Milan is a really smart guy. I've used his tips and my vet and groomer say, "Your dog is very well behaved. He is not agressive, he listens to you, he is submissive to you, keep up the good work, he is a great dog." I couldnt do it without the show, so try it.